“As my grief began to snowball, I hesitated to tell anyone I was struggling, largely because I didn’t know how. I didn’t know what to ask for, and without knowing what to ask for, it felt too complicated and futile to ask.” Ways to Reach Out When You’re Struggling with Your Mental Health
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I scheduled an appointment with my therapist today, and it was really nice to go in and talk to her. I noted on my intake form that I have new insurance, and had my hour long appointment, and paid my copay. Just now they actually looked at the intake form, and called to tell me they don’t take Medicaid and will have to cancel my next appointment unless I can pay out of pocket.
So back when season 2 of Crazy Ex-Girlfriend was coming out on Netflix, I started watching season 1. It delighted me for 3 reasons: funny, main character dealing with mental illness, and THE SONGS! I was a theater kid in high school and college so OF COURSE I loved all the ridiculous musical numbers. I love Darryl, and White Josh, and Josh Chan, and Valencia, and HEATHER IS THE BEST. Season 3 came out a few days ago, and I started watching it again. I just got to episodes 5 and 6 and I have feels. Heavy feels. Spoilers ahoy.
It’s been a while. I might have been feeling too in a rut regarding derby, librarianship, life to have anything worth posting. And then I kept not posting.
But I have this FABULOUS photo by Michael Warrick and since I’ve been with Free State for years but hadn’t updated my photo from the DCRG one, I wanted to do that here and on twitter. And then I wanted everyone to see it so I had to post. So hopefully this will be the first of many new posts.
But just in case it isn’t, CHECK OUT THAT PHOTO OH MY GOD YOU BETTER NOT FOUL OUT BITCHES
I think I’m dancing on the precipice of a depressive episode. It’s always hard to tell because at first it is just hard to get up, or I need more naps. That’s how it always starts. But there are plenty of times when it’s hard to get up for other reasons, or I nap because I stayed up too late and got up to early. So I haven’t said anything. Doing the wait and see.
A trans friends of mine shared this link as an example of toxicity in the trans community. The post is a perfect example of self-directed misogyny. I commented politely that I thought this was well meant but bad advice. My comment was deleted. Well that’s fine, I can’t control what they do on their blog, but I get to say what I want on mine.
Femininity is not makeup. It is not dresses. It is not tearing others down for dressing comfortably. I was born with genitals that correspond to my gender presentation, so I can’t speak to any trans experience, but because transwomen are women, full stop, I know that I have experiences in common with them.
I don’t wear makeup regularly. If I wear a dress it’s because I’m feeling too lazy to pair a top with a bottom, or it’s hot out and I can’t wear shorts. I change my own oil. I taught my boyfriend how to change a tire. I know how to use more power tools than many people can name. And all of that is feminine because I do it and I’m a woman. So if a trans woman wears short shorts and a tank top, that’s feminine. If she wears “too much” eyeshadow, that’s feminine. If she doesn’t wear any makeup, that’s feminine. If she wears ball gown everywhere she goes, that’s feminine. If she wears a hockey jersey and bib overalls, that’s feminine.
Stop trying to convince people to conform to your vision of femininity. Let them be themselves and do what makes them comfortable in their skin. You do what makes you comfortable in your skin.
Hey guys, in today’s installment of healthcare posts, we’ve got The Knotty Dogwalker, a petcare specialist in northern Maryland.